Methods

First of all I want to say that the methods that are used always work in the background as a palette of tools and knowledge that I use to work with you.
I want to meet you as a person in the first place, where you are in this moment.

 

Somatic Experiencing and NARM are body-oriented modalities of therapy that work with shock trauma, developmental trauma and stress in all areas of us as humans. By that I mean physical, emotional and cognitive. Trauma and stress is stored in the body, in how we deal with it emotionally and how we think about ourselves and the world around us.

 

Somatic Experiencing

We have three survival mechanisms:

Fight , flight and freeze (collapse and fainting are related to freeze)
When there is no way to fight or flight, we freeze.
The break is on it with a lot of survival energy under it.
 

In an SE (Somatic Experiencing) session, the survival energy that got stuck in the nervous system is dosed in a titrated way and discharged. In very small steps we go in and out of the tension. This ensures discharge of the stored energy. We work with physical sensations, such as tingling sensations, heat and flow, you can track step by step what is happening inside of you without being overwhelmed. This also helps to have a greater sense of control and manageability over the body. SE helps you become aware of what your resources are that support the processing process.

 

Examples of internal resources are:
 

Your sense of humor, contact with the ground, sense of strength, creativity, your intelligence, your breathing, where it feels good and pleasant in your body.

 

External resources can be: 
 

Friends, family, a nice place, positive memories, nature, music, art. But also objects with an important value to you such as a ring, a statue, a doll, a work of art, etc.


Resiliance
 

With various trauma's it often happens that we are no longer aware of our borders. We are irritable quickly, have trouble saying no. We are constantly looking behind us, so that we no longer know what is happening in front of us. Our resilience is declining. With SE and NARM you learn to be more present with the inconveniences in your system without running away from it or suppressing it. As you become more aware of how sensations and survival mechanisms work in the body, you can also discharge and regulate yourself better. The moments of tension will be in your system for less time and you will also be able to react more resiliently to situations.

Somatic Experiencing is made to carefully, without reliving the trauma, helping the body to release the frozen tension little by little. The completion that could not be made in the past can be finished in the here and now. This discharge can finally, often after many years, restore peace of mind and body.

 

NARM

 

The Neuro Affective Relational Model, is based on 5 core needs :

 

- Connection with yourself and others

- Being able to express needs

- Having trust, being able to be volunarable and ask for help

- Autonomy, being able set clear borders

- Love and sexuality, healthy relationships
 

When these core needs are not properly addressed by our caregivers at young age then our basic needs cannot move freely. Problems can then arise in feeling connection with ourselves and others. A feeling of mistrust and insecurity can arise, we cannot express our needs or are unable to set clear boundaries. Our love life can get confused because we don't experience a healthy love-sexuality connection. 
Together with you, we explore the dilemma's you may face.


For instance:
 

You would love to connect with someone but have difficulty with it.
When i express my needs, i will loose my partner.
You have trouble trusting yourself and others, but you would like to.
You want to stand up for yourself but have difficulty with that.
When i say how i really feel, i will be rejected
When i say no to my boss i will be fired

 

With these dilemma's i work on a cognitive, emotional and body oriented level so all parts of your inner experience will be adressed in small steps.

 

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